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How to Stay Focused in a Distracted World with Leslie Samuel – MITP019

How to Stay Focused in a Distracted World with Leslie Samuel – MITP019

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Has your wife ever asked you to put down your phone while you’re talking to her? Do you wonder what’s happening inside your brain while you’re “multi-tasking”?

This week’s episode features Leslie Samuel, from BecomeaBlogger.com, as we discuss neuroscience and ways we can be more focused in our relationships with God and our family, as well as hacks for being more productive in our work.

ABOUT THE SHOW:

  • Why Romans 8:28 is Leslie’s life verse
  • How Leslie’s 4-year old son caused Leslie to rethink the role of social media in his life
  • What neuroscience said really happens in our brain while we multi-task

Leslie’s life verse:
Romans 8:28 – And we know that God causes all things to work together for good to those who love God, to those who are called according to His purpose.

ABOUT LESLIE

RESOURCES MENTIONED

Deep Work – by Cal Newport (AFFILIATE LINK)
Self-control app – https://selfcontrolapp.com/

Time Stamp Show Notes

1:08 – Romans 8:28
2:42 – About Leslie
3:22 – Leslie’s faith journey
9:14 – Letting go and still praising God
11:50 – Business as ministry
12:08 – Being a minister in the home
14:30 – The myth of multitasking
19:48 – Multitasking and marriage/family
21:50 – When you invest your time it becomes more valuable to you
27:47 – Getting distracted and away from God
28:25 – How to go deep in work and relationships
31:16 – How to not get distracted at work – App: Self Control and creating zones when to work on email, social media, work, etc.
32:30 – When social media and email controls the schedule there is less productivity
34:47 – Quality vs. quantity time
35:57 – Biological effects from being more productive
40:23 – Not working or working on the Sabbath
41:48 – Leslie’s Friday night music
43:18 – Where to find Leslie: Becomeablogger.com and Facebook
43:39 – Parting words: Intentionality is what is it all about, what do you want to accomplish in life

How to Lead a Thriving, Sexy Marriage with Owen Hemsath MITP018

How to Lead a Thriving, Sexy Marriage with Owen Hemsath MITP018

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Has your spouse ever threatened you with divorce? Have things ever dissolved to the place where divorce feels like the only option?

In this episode, Owen Hemsath shares the story of how his wife’s threat of divorce awakened in him the desire to become a mature and godly leader in their marriage. It didn’t happen overnight, but eight years later they decided to start a ministry called Thriving Sexy Marriage to help other couples develop marriages that last.

ABOUT THIS SHOW:

  • Owen shares about his conversion from Mormonism
  • Fighting the “crazy cycle” in marriage
  • Learning to speak his wife’s love language

Ephesians 5:25-28:

“Husbands, love your wives, as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her, that he might sanctify her, having cleansed her by the washing of water with the word, so that he might present the church to himself in splendor, without spot or wrinkle or any such thing, that she might be holy and without blemish. In the same way husbands should love their wives as their own bodies. He who loves his wife loves himself.”

About Owen: Owen is a YouTube Marketing Consultant specializing in Small Business Growth. He is also co-founder of Thriving Sexy Marriage, a ministry dedicated to helping couples develop healthy, Christ-honoring marriage. Owen’s passion is to help men reclaim the biblical role of the husband as a leader. He is calling men to step up and lead their wives as Christ calls us to lead. Owen shares his cancer survival story here.

Owen’s Apologetics site.

Owen Video – Youtube channel and website.

SHOW NOTES:

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RESOURCES:

Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs (AFFILIATE LINK)

5 Love Languages by Gary Chapman (AFFILIATE LINK)

5 Love Languages Quiz

30 Day Intimacy Challenge

Time Stamp Show Notes

2:58 – About Owen
4:00 – Owen’s faith journey
11:32 – Passionate about Marriage
15:51 – Course Love and Respect conference – Love and Respect by Emerson Eggerichs (AFFILIATE LINK)
18:02 – Marriage is a skill set to learn
19:30 – Dating expectations vs. married expectations
23:15 – How to change to become the husband your wife needs
27:24 – What does it mean to be the leader in your home
27:55 – Becoming the leader means putting away selfish ways
29:50 – Key takeaways from the Love and Respect conference
32:05 – Ephesians 5:25-28
36:13 – Different types of crazy cycles
38:35 – Love languages
42:10 – Cultural views of men today
46:50 – Where to find Owen Thriving Sexy Marriage, Owen Video – Youtube channel and website and Owen’s Apologetics site.

How to Speak the Truth in Love by Daniel J Lewis MITP017

How to Speak the Truth in Love by Daniel J Lewis MITP017

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Have you wondered if you should speak up about your faith at work? Perhaps you know you should, but how do you do it in a gracious way?

In this week’s episode, Daniel J. Lewis, founder of The Audacity to Podcast, shares an experience that serves as a model and a reminder to us that silence has its own consequences.

ABOUT THE SHOW:

  • Daniel shares a story from his podcast Once about deciding whether to speak up on a contentious issue
  • How to speak the truth in love
  • Ways we can feed our minds so our faith bleeds through in all we do

Colossians 4:5-6: Use your heads as you live and work among outsiders. Don’t miss a trick. Make the most of every opportunity. Be gracious in your speech. The goal is to bring out the best in others in a conversation, not put them down, not cut them out. (The Message)

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Link to episode where Daniel decided to speak up.

Time Stamp Show Notes

1:30 – Colossians 4:5-6: Use your heads as you live and work among outsiders. Don’t miss a trick. Make the most of every opportunity. Be gracious in your speech. The goal is to bring out the best in others in a conversation, not put them down, not cut them out.
2:54 – Daniel’s faith journey
5:50 – Ephesians 4:15 “Rather, speaking the truth in love, we are to grow up in every way into him who is the head, into Christ”
6:15 – Daniel’s Once Podcast
11:39 – Learning to speak the truth in love in light of a hot cultural topic
18:00 – What makes us salt and light and how to do that
19:56 – What does speaking the truth in love look like in day to day life
21:37 – When someone is struggling, this is the time to show them love and build relationships
23:50 – You will be what you are reading and spending your time on
24:30 – Episode 301 – shares his podcasting story and how faith gets tied in
27:41 – Relationship with Christ
30:18 – Where do you go to process your faith?
33:20 – The importance of meeting with other men
35:30 – You can find Daniel at https://theaudacitytopodcast.com/ and on twitter
36:06 – Advice: Don’t wait for the pastor to pour insight into you, take what you are given, see how to apply it and then do it.